Trish Murphy

Trish Murphy

Contributor

Trish Murphy is a psychotherapist, teacher and trainer based at Trinity College Dublin.

‘Am I crazy to think my partner secretly wants to get back with his wife?’

Tell Me About It: ‘He does not bring me to any of the kids’ events. It feels like I am not important enough in his life’


‘I’m in my late 30s, have a good job and travel a lot. I don’t think I’ve ever been in love’

Tell Me About It: ‘I find it hard to muster the enthusiasm that might be required to take any relationship to the next level’


‘I don’t love my husband. I care for him and don’t wish him ill health, but I’m struggling’

Tell Me About It: I just feel so deflated, with nothing to look forward to any more


I’ll soon have a second house. How do I tell my friend who just had to move back in with her parents?

Tell Me About It: I feel awful for my friend in her situation and don’t want her to feel like I’m rubbing her nose in it


‘I’m really starting to dislike my husband... I am exasperated and I dread spending time with him’

Tell Me About It: He has become extremely interested in and angry about immigration issues... I find his online presence an embarrassment


‘I’m an atheist and my fiancée’s strong Catholic beliefs have caused a chasm over our wedding and raising our future children’

Tell Me About It: Use the mutual influence in your relationship to grow what is already great about it


‘My sister-in-law will never organise or contribute to family events, she won’t offer to help in any way’

Tell Me About It: She is almost rude to us and is certainly ungenerous in all her dealings with us


‘I’m in my mid-30s and split up with my long-term boyfriend, but now I think I still love him’

Tell Me About It: ‘I had stopped all physical contact, and we were essentially living together as flatmates’


‘My relationship is at serious risk because of what a psychic told my partner. This is bonkers’

Tell Me About It: There have even been long periods where I have to sleep in the spare room as I can’t be trusted enough


‘My husband is obsessed with exercise and sports ... it feels a bit like an affair’

Tell Me About It: He would rather leave the house for a run, cycle or swim than spend time with me and the children


‘I’m worried: My ex-husband and I have been invited to a wedding’

Tell Me About It: The problem is my family – they think I am soft and stupid for giving in to him


‘I’m having fun with a flirtatious man, but worry he might want sex. The body prep is too much effort’

Tell Me About It: ‘The body preparation involved for women at my age to consider actual sex is beyond the effort I am prepared to make’


‘My husband recently died. We are in our early 50s. My whole future has been taken from me’

Tell Me About It: We had plans, hopes and dreams. I am simply bereft


‘I’ve met someone and want to try a relationship, but I’m worried about my young children’

Tell Me About It: Separation has taken a toll and left me to shoulder all childcare responsibilities


‘I was overheard saying my date wasn’t very good-looking. Now he’s blocking me’

Tell Me About It: I thought being back in the job after extended remote work would be great, but it’s becoming nightmarish


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